Good day my dear reader whoever you are,
In my last post you have seen about how desperation can transform heterosexuality into a form of homosexual desperation.Now i would discuss the path of those who chose to get married.Most countries follow one of two basic models for marriage , free marriage and organized marriage.Free marriage means looking for your lifetime partner through dates,communication or social links it is tricky and challenging but both sides get to know their options and deal with the choices they make. Organized marriage is when the social structure demands specific people to marry specific others for social gain it is a form of social organization its denies people freedom but at least gives them a reasonable guarantee of being with someone,Saudi Arabia has the worst of both worlds.
As i have discussed before communication with the other gender are limited and minimal.So how on earth can a person find a prospective wife or husband?.Simple, family recommendations are the first method female family members begin giving the the prospect their opinions and recommendation Of course the husband does not know what his wife looks like *except if he was lucky and his sister took a sneak picture to show him* and almost nothing about her true personality other than the recommendation given by her mother and his.Seems almost like organized marriage right? no it does not end there.The bride has the complete right to reject the husband if she deemed him unfit for her or if she did not like him.While at first this may seem completely reasonable it has one major problem, the guy CANNOT find a way to persuade her or prove to her that he is a good husband because he cannot communicate with her personally.The lady on the other hand cannot also know the prospect’s personality because she cannot talk to him either without her father or brother thus creating a horrible environment of brown nosing and dishonesty by both sides due to lack of personal compatibility .This creates a situation where the husband must conform to social norms to demonstrate his goodness and quality and any person who deviates from social norms is instantly considered dangerous and thus removed from possibility of marriage and having children who may grow to have similar opinions.To ensure this the fact that a women may not marry without her parents’s approval adds more to the complexity of the situation.
If you grew within a religious society it is common for you to see people associate religiosity with goodness.So of course the religious get more favoritism with choices and parents begin pushing their daughters to marry such individuals for both religious power, prestige and social respect.But the process of getting married in Saudi Arabia is extremely tedious and costly .I always joke about it calling it the “the Saudi version of american collage student loans”.First you have to pay the bride the dowry * a set amount of money that ranges from 20000$ to above 70000$* that money is entirely and exclusively for the bride alone no one else has right to it. second comes the gold the groom has to buy for his soon to be mother in law, and that depends on how much she is willing to accept from the groom.During the time they couple become fiances where they may talk to each other for a small time to get to know each other a little more forget the small dinner and dancing wine and dine dates here we are talking about gold and platinum sets of decorations for gifts and even with that the time they have for each other is extremely limited as well then comes the wedding palace.Yes you read that right a wedding palace is a big place that the marriage celebration will take place.Allow me to share examples:
Rose wedding palace:exterior http://www.txt-txt.biz/txt/wh_49433451.jpg male interior: http://www.txt-txt.biz/txt/wh_76911033.jpg and the female interior is even fancier than that i assure you.This is an *middle class-upper middle class* wedding palace
another middle class wedding palace exterior :http://sa.jeeran.com/images/preview/440×440/placesLogos/53/darrat-al-layaly-riyadh-4136782653.jpg.jpg interior:http://www.dohaup.com/up/2010-05-28/admin1279044709.jpg each of these would cost you at least around the 8000$-12000 for one night not including of course the food and entertainment and the fancy car that you must rent to take your bride away at the end of the night which are all the groom’s expense.
But men cannot reject social norms to do so makes you a shame target and makes others look down on you.In the Saudi Society shame is a horrifyingly powerful weapon to control people’e behavior and remember the goal of such a society is to destroy dissent to the Saudi society as i explained many times before dissent is the worst nightmare to their cohesion.To be fair this one is not Islam’s fault at least not directly, it is a pride based affair.Not making a wedding the greatest day of your wife’s life makes everyone *men and women* look down on you and disrespect you.How Islam comes to this is simply a matter of constructing society in a way to rejects opposing opinions and points of view thus creating an ultra-conservative environment that rejects anything that deviates from social norms and exterminates it and encouraging behavior that only limits a person’s communication with the other gender.
In my next post i will talk extensively about something nobody has ever talked about in regards to Saudi Arabia.
the advantage,how the few men who reject conforming are punished for rejecting the system and how the few females are denied the opportunity for individuality and self accomplishment and how the crushing majority of men AND women actually support and defend the system.
Till then
Wa asalam alikum
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